Updated: Mar 7, 2019
Don’t let the title give you the wrong idea. Praying for each other is necessary. However, some of God’s beautiful children *insert fake smile* either unknowingly or knowingly abuses and misuses this practice, which causes our lives a lot more trouble than we think.
Here are 4 Dangers to Asking People to Pray for You.
It’s offensive to God.
Think about this: If a wife goes to her best friend and says, “I need you to talk to my husband for me. I really need something from him.” Could you imagine how offended this husband would be if he was approached by his wife’s friend about something she needed from him, especially if he has yet to hear it from her?? It’s the same with God: we can’t request someone to approach God, our own Father, with our needs when we haven’t even taken the time to communicate those things to Him ourselves.
We all know that communication is key in order to have a successful relationship of any kind. Well prayer is our way to communicate with God, and the more we communicate in our relationship with Him, the better, closer, and more intimate our relationship will be. You can be the most sinless saint on this side of Heaven, but if you don’t have a personal relationship with God, you’re still going to get hit with the “Depart from me, I know you not” line at the gates (Matthew 7:21-23)
It defeats the purpose.
The Bible says that when two or more agree on a prayer that it will be done! (Matthew 18:19). It’s a powerful thing to stand in agreement with someone for the things you are seeking and asking God for, so don’t forsake the practice of praying with someone who genuinely wants you to receive those things. Now when you ask someone to stand in agreement with you so that you may receive what you need from God, this insinuates that there is a prayer already in existence to be touched and agreed upon, or that both of you are about to pray together in that moment.
Some of us real-deal intend for people to pour out in agreement over some invisible prayers. This completely defeats the purpose of even asking someone to go out of their way to pray for you, because not only will you not receive what you need, but you will have wasted the precious time of the person that will actually keep their word in praying for you. If you ask someone to pray for you, make sure that you, yourself, are doing the work that you expect others to do for you. I mean, it’s your blessing after all. You can’t expect others to work harder for it than you do.
You are neglecting your own power.
Some people assume they can’t get a prayer through because of whatever “wrong” there is in them or because they aren’t “living right.” These are usually the same people who say they can’t go to church because they have nothing good enough to wear. I don’t know if you’ve noticed… but pastors are preaching in distressed jeans and fitted tees all over the country every Sunday morning. So… yeah… I don’t know how long you’ll be able to use that one. Sorry (not sorry).
God allowed His own Son to be killed in a horrible way, just so we would have access to Him whenever we want, no matter what we do or who we have become. A lot of us are allowing His death to go in vain because we insist on separating ourselves from a God that has promised not to let ANYTHING (not the number of people you may have slept with last night, nor the number of people you may have killed this morning. Yes, I’m being dramatic, but it’s nonetheless true) separate us from Him and His love for us. (Romans 8: 31-39)
His only requirements are that we believe in Him and we come with a sincere and repentant heart. If you ask for forgiveness, you’ll always get it, as long as you commit to discontinuing whatever sin is pulling you away from Him (1 John 1:9, James 5:15). Don’t forfeit your inheritance of power and privilege that offers you a direct access line to the God who knows all, sees all, and has the ability to be everywhere (past, present, future) at the same time. If Oprah or Obama gave you their direct phone numbers, you CANNOT tell me that you wouldn’t use it! Well God has a lot more pull than they do (He’s only the Creator of all things) and He’s on your side… just waiting to hear from you. Either use that power, or be in danger of losing it.
You can’t trust everyone’s prayer life or liking for you.
I had a bad habit of throwing out the phrase “pray for me” as a half serious/ half funny joke. But what I quickly had to realize is that the devil accepts and fulfills prayers too. Our words hold so much weight, that even the jokes we say or the things we say intentionally can manifest in our lives.
We have to be careful what we ask for, and who we ask for it, because we just might get it. Everybody doesn’t pray to the same god. And even if we did, we still don’t always have the capacity to know who is really for us and against us. Enemies have a tendency to stay close. Some are even sent into our lives by the devil himself as friendly or spiritual imposters. Our discernment can buffer this, but we can’t attain or mature in our discernment between good and bad around us if we don’t maintain a strong personal prayer life.
One day, God spoke to me and said, “No longer will this generation be able to get by on the prayer lives of others.” This means that we will all be held responsible for our own relationship with God. We can’t depend on the prayers of our parents, grandparents, and sanctified friends to keep us in good standing with God. I encourage you resuscitate your prayer life because your relationship with God and the success of every aspect of your life depends on it.