4 Signs of Settling in Your Relationship (& What Will Happen if You Stay)

Updated: Mar 7, 2019

In the past, I had a habit of settling in my relationships because…. that’s easy to do when you don’t know you’re worth. But that’s another blog for another day!

What I’m trying to say is, you’re in safe hands with this topic because ya girl has been there and done that more times than I care to admit.

If you aren’t 100% sure about your boo just yet, then you’re in luck!! Because I’ve made just enough mistakes in my relationships to help you decide if they are the one for you!! These 4 signs might save you from marrying the WRONG person.

1. You find yourself easily interested in other people.

A person’s eyes will wander when they feel like they can find better. If you’re tempted to flirt or just flat-out cheat, then that’s a sign that you aren’t getting everything you need and want in your relationship.

If you stay with them: You will either cheat or be overly flirtatious with others on front of them because you resent them for not being everything that you need and want.

2. Your family doesn’t like them.

A lot of people underestimate this because, well… most of our families are insane. But you can’t deny that they’ve known you all of your life and they are really good at picking up on things that we refuse to see when we are in love. And a part of us knows that so we keep them away from our family members for as LONG as we can.

If you stay with them: Either your family will run them off or your spouse will cause you to be isolated from them. If neither of these things happen and you manage to stay with your boo AND  close to your family, just be prepared for a life of horror, especially on the holidays.

3. You hide them.

Do you find yourself always trying to come up with creative ways to date indoors? Your friends probably think you’re lying about your relationship because your boo is “always busy” when they invite you guys out. I’ve done it before too.

When you aren’t sure about the person you’re dating the LAST thing you want to do is bring them around your friends because they won’t spare any expense on ragging you AND your little date.

If you stay with them: Be prepared for your boo to be your only friend. And that might sound cute, but it’s highly unhealthy. You want to marry your best friend, but you don’t want them to be your ONLY friend.

4. Takes you farther from God.

If your significant other doesn’t make you feel closer to God and more of yourself, then you’ve just downgraded. My exes always had a logical reason for why I should drink, smoke, or have sex with them (just being real) but every time I tried to do what was right I got no support or encouragement from them.