Updated: Jan 10, 2020
In last week's post, I gave a possible reason as to why we stay in (or return to) toxic relationships even when we know we should end it - soul ties.
(If you haven't read/watched that post yet, I would suggest visited that one first! There are major levels to this!)
Many people believe that soul ties can only be formed by having sex with someone, but I believe this is yet another deception that satan wants us to believe in order to keep us in the dark and not become completely free.
In this post, I'll be addressing 4 types of soul ties - physical, emotional, social, and spiritual. There are godly and ungodly forms of each. What determines that is the reason (or spirit) that connected you with that person in the first place.
1. Physical Soul Ties
Soul ties were created by God to foster unity. It serves as a magnet that is supposed to help us bond and connect with the people and groups that we need to survive and serve a purpose with.
Godly physical soul ties are formed between biological family members, during the consummation of marriage to create oneness between a husband and wife, and through showing loving affection towards family, friends and loved ones, such as a hug, kiss, rub on the back, pat on the arm, ect.
Ungodly physical soul ties are formed as a result of having sex outside of marriage and engaging in physical affection with the intent, or thought, of having sex outside of marriage.
Many times we stay in unhealthy relationships because the physical connection ends up blinding us to the realities of just how toxic the situation is. We begin making excuses for them and using love and loyalty as a reason to stay, when really it is the soul tie that's keeping us attached.
Trying to leave a situation like this is much like trying to pull two magnets apart- they will only get so far apart before they collide back into each other. This is why it's so hard to leave a bad relationship once and for all once physical lines are crossed. This is also why sex with "no strings attached" is impossible. Oh, there are strings- they're called soul ties.
2. Emotional Soul Ties
These type of soul ties are formed by sharing emotional feelings and experiences with someone. Going through highs and lows, loses and gains, and up and downs with someone has a tendency to strengthen your bond with them.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 (NIV) says:
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work; If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!