5 Qualities that Make You More Desirable

Updated: Jan 10, 2020



What qualities make a person more desirable? What do men and women really want? Do we even really know what we want??


These questions led me to make a poll on Instagram in pursuit of answers. (Not that my IG is a perfect population sample, but it's a great start. Plus, I happen to think my followers are pretty perfect *wink*)


My goals was to see which desirable qualities overlapped between men and women to get an overall idea of what is considered desirable across the board. (I'm in full research psychology mode right now.)

Well the result are in and here's what I found!


1. Loyalty

There's nothing worse than feeling like you have to watch your back with the person you're in a relationship with. When you make space for someone in our world, you want to know that you can trust them - that they won't send your world crashing down by betraying you or leaving unexpectedly. We need to feel secure and safe in our relationships in order to give ourselves completely to it or else it will only be a fraction of what it could be.


2. Submissive

Most of what we see in regards to submission in relationships revolves around a woman submitting to her husband, but what I've learned is that many women are taking extra precautions to make sure that the guys they're dating are fully submitted to God. Thankfully, we are starting to realize that if a man loves God and lives by the Word that it cuts out much of the risk factors that many women are worried about encountering in relationships, such as lying, cheating, inability to provide, unwillingness to communicate, being insensitive, abusive behaviors, anger issues, ect. Women don't want to submit to a man who has no one to answer to.


3. Supportive

Support and loyalty go hand in hand, but they are far from being one in the same. It's very possible to be loyal and unsupportive, as well as supportive but disloyal.


Support involves providing encouragement and emotional help - not just "being there" for someone, but being helpful, sensitive, and understanding through every possible situation. This is a MUST because when things get tough in relationships, support along with commitment is what will allow you to grow stronger and closer in the midst of it.


4. Fun

Many of us have a fear of becoming boring after we settle into a relationship, so it's not surprising that most people desire someone who they can have fun with to keep the relationship exciting. A lifetime is a long time to spend with someone who bores you. When we're 80 years old and decades into marriage, we want to be able to still enjoy the company and conversation of our spouse.