5 Dating Tips for Introverts

Updated: Jan 10, 2020

I've always scored 50% introvert and 50% extrovert on personality tests...

MY truth is that I'm an introvert who makes myself become an extrovert when I need to be. BUT when it comes to dating, that doesn't always work. So here are some tips that have helped me become a better intro-dater!

1. Be honest.

If you’re shy, say that! Some people actually find shyness attractive and endearing. Plus, you should let them know this early on because people have a tendency to misinterpret the behaviors of an introvert. Trust me, I've gotten it all!

Bougie... Mean.... Standoffish.

People often mistake us for being anti-social when we are just observing and getting acclimated to new people and places. They may think we're mean or rude, when really we are battling a little nervousness or anxiety.

So mention this ahead of time so that when they notice certain behaviors, they'll know it's because of your introversion and not mislabel you.

2.Go to a movie for the first date.

Now for an extrovert, I would suggest the opposite: Go somewhere that will give you the chance to talk and get to know each other.

But for us intros, it takes us a lot longer to get comfortable enough around someone to be ourselves and show our true personalities. Going to a movie will allow you the time to get a feel for them without the pressure of having to fill every moment with an interesting topic to avoid awkward silence.

And then after the movie, when you go for dinner or ice cream then you’ll at least have something to talk about.

3. Plan a group date.

This may sound middle school-ish, but there’s a good reason for it!

It’s really easy for an introvert to act like a weirdo, because that’s just the effect that social situations have on us. And the worst thing you want to do while dating is not be yourself.

You don’t want someone to fall in love with your "shy self" and then be completely caught off-guard when you finally come out of your shell and unleash your personality.

Plan a group date or a small kickback (a super causal house party or get-together) with one or two of your best girlfriends and their dates. Your friends will help you to relax and have more fun, but also it’s really hard t