Updated: Dec 14, 2018
It's officially December, which means it's the most wonderful time of the year... to focus on your purpose! Now I know I'm the "relationship girl" and I noticed that some of my followers kind of fall off when I shift the focus to purpose. So what I feel the need to stress is that...
the right one will NEVER come if you aren't in your purpose because they were created FOR your purpose!
Case and point: Barack and Michelle Obama. They met smack dab in the middle of purpose. Michelle was actually Barack's supervisor at the time that they met. If neither had the desire to fulfill their purposes they would have never been in the right position to cross paths.
Also, keep in mind that their purposes were in the same industry, which meant that they were going in the same direction and a had developed a specific set of skills and abilities that would enable them to combine their efforts to become America's most beloved and influential power couple.
Can you imagine Barack without Michelle and vice versa? They would have made a difference, I'm certain, but not on the scale that they were able to achieve together.
You are setting your relationship up for failure if you enter into it without knowing what you're called to do in your life because once you learn that, everything about you and the course of your life changes and that can create complete chaos and discontentment in a relationship.
Realizing and focusing on your purpose actually increases, if not guarantees, your chances of finding the right one. Here's 4 reasons why!
1. Purpose prepares you for them.
Purpose develops you as a person, but most importantly, it teaches you how to serve, which is what relationships are all about. Most of the things you need to know and learn in order for your relationship to succeed will be learned while operating in your purpose. Things like:
how to push past your feelings, sacrificing for the good of the big picture, communication, persistence, planning and strategy, confidence in yourself and your abilities.
I've said this a million times: Love is not enough in relationships. There's a level of development and maturity that you have to grow to in order to acquire the abilities and skills that will keep your relationship from failing. And these are the things that you can rarely learn outside of your purpose.
2. Your purpose draws your "purpose partner" towards you.
As I mentioned before, your "soul mate" (or whatever you want to call them) was created for your purpose, and you for theirs. Marriage was created by God to serve a purpose. When Adam and Eve chose each other, God immediately gave them a purpose to accomplish: Be fruitful and multiply (Genesis 1:28).
Is this something they could do on their own? Negative. In the same way, there may be aspects of your purpose that you may not be able to accomplish until you are matched with your purpose partner. But working towards that as a single person will be a major factor in attracting the right person who is headed in the same direction. And as you combine forces, it will add an amount of power to your purposes that would be impossible for you to achieve on your own.
3. Purpose is sexy!
Think about this: When a musician is playing music, when an athlete is playing their sport, when a business owner is making deals, when a mother or father is engaging their child.
When someone is in their element doing their thing, they instantly become more attractive! It's incredible sexy! It makes them intriguing; it makes people want to be a part of what they're doing and know more about them. When you are truly walking in your purpose, doing what naturally comes out of you, it draws a specific audience towards you. I guarantee you that sooner or later, your match will become one of the people in that audience.
4. Purpose weeds out the counterfeits
Your purpose is so big that it can literally be intimidating enough to run people off. Do you think me talking about relationships all day everyday hasn't run some men off? Lots of them! They either think I'm obsessed with marriage or that they can't measure up.
But that's why I make a point to keep my purpose front and center. I want it to be the first thing that a potential sees because if you're going to run, I want you to do that as soon as possible!
Yes, the potentials are few and far between but it makes it so much easier because they tend to eliminate themselves before I spend more time and energy on them than I should. The person that is truly for you will not only be able to handle your purpose but will support you in it and be able to add to that purpose as well.
Having something fulfilling to focus on makes "the wait" virtually non-existent. Time flies when you're walking in purpose! You'll look up and day and there your "Match Made in Heaven" will be. It's like the saying goes, focus all of your attention on chasing your goals and when you notice someone is keeping up with your pace, run with them.