Updated: Jan 10, 2020
Having a hard time trying to figure out if you're dating "the one?" Or maybe you aren't dating just yet, but you want to make sure that when you do, you waste as little time as possible. Maybe you've been in a committed relationship for a while now, but you're at the infamous "marriage or break-up" crossroads.
Well shout-out to the Bible because (if you read it) it makes red flags and the wrong relationship so easy to notice!
Here are some red flags to look for according to the scripture:
1. Psalm 26:4-5
I do not sit with the deceitful, nor do I associate with hypocrites. I abhor the assembly of evildoers and refuse to sit with the wicked.
If they treat people like crap...
This is a whole character issue. Pay attention to how they treat others because you could be next. Refuse to date or even be friends with people who are manipulative, drama-filled, mean, condescending, and expect treatment from others that they aren’t willing to extend.
2. Proverbs 27: 5-6
Open rebuke is better than love carefully concealed. Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.
If they are unconcerned with your growth...
A person who truly cares for you will risk hurting your feelings to tell you the truth and help you to grow, but if your boo or friend isn’t invested in your growth, they may only tell you what you want to hear and stroke your ego which may be a cover-up for their deceit towards you. That may sound harsh, but you have to be wary of those "me too"people who agree with everything you say and tell you that you look cute even though your panty line is jacked up and the cut of your dress makes you look double the size. Sometimes, sabotage can be covered in honey. And don;t be fooled, men are capable of it too. Never date someone who' afraid for you to outshine them.
3. Proverbs 27:10
As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.