Updated: Jan 10
I can't think of anyone in America who was happy to hear about Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan getting a divorce. Well... maybe his new girlfriend... and her new boyfriend. Hmm...
And just 5 months after ending their 9 year marriage!!
I don't know about you, but I personally wasn't ready for them to start dating so soon. I mean, I'm not even over the break-up... how can they be?!
It made me wonder...
How do we know when we are truly ready to move on after a major break-up??
So many people, especially celebrities (yeah I said it), get this part wrong. This explains how you can be with the right person and your relationship still go horribly wrong.
The fantasy we have about love is that it's enough all on its own. It's passionate... it literally pulls us in... but it's also work.
Every relationship you start will be a combination of what you've been through in your past relationships and what you're willing to learn in your new one.
We'll never enter any new relationship fully equipped to make it work. There are things we'll have to learn along the way; there's no way around it.
BUT! Here's a few signs that you're ready to move on in a healthy way:
1. You don't hate your ex.
If your blood boils every time you think about your ex, you aren't ready to move on. The best thing you can do for your next Boo is forgive your last one. They don't want to feel like they have to pay for the mistakes of your last relationship and they shouldn't have to.
And if you need a little help in this area, download a free sample of the ebook "Forgiving Your Ex." It's a step-by-step manual (of sorts) to making sure your last relationship doesn't ruin your next one!
2. You don't feel lonely when you're alone.
Needing someone around puts too much pressure on the person you're dating. No one wants to be solely responsible for your happiness.
Make a point not to date anyone until you are completely content spending time with YOU! Learn to date yourself. If you don't want to spend time with you, then why would anyone else?
3. You have (good) answers to these questions: Who are you? & What do you want out of life?
What's your purpose in life? You don't have to have it all figured out, but if you aren't at least working towards living a purposeful life then that's where you need to be focusing your attention. Not on a relationship.
If you aren't sure what your calling is just yet, don't worry. You aren't the only one! If you enter your email, I'll send you a free printable, step-by-step workbook for discovering your life's purpose!
I want to leave you with the bestest tip I've got on this situation:
If you're done with serial dating and you're serious about finding "the one", spend this time between relationships in prayer. Ask God to give you discernment when choosing the next person to date so that you aren't right back here in the next 6 months.
Ask Him to open your eyes, heart, and mind to enjoying the space you're currently in so that once you do find "the one" you don't regret not taking advantage of the most important time in your life: your singleness.