Updated: Jan 16
There are a million trends that come and go over time, but one that we just won't let die is that stale "hey stranger" text message.
It always comes out of nowhere. And you're either instantly repulsed, wondering why and how this person still has your number. Or you sit back with a smirk, getting ready to formulate the perfect I-knew-you'd-be-back response.
Well, you no longer have to rack your brain or pass the phone through the roundtable of your besties before you hit send. I'm about to help you out a little bit and give you the perfect response for the next "hey stranger" that pops up on your notifications bar.
For those of us who are serious about finding that right someone to spend our lives with, this message usually comes at the worst time.
When you finally meet someone new, here comes your dusty ex... hey stranger
When you've made the decision to save yourself for marriage (for real this time), here comes The Toe-Curler... hey stranger
When you've decided to spend more time alone and get to know yourself better, here comes that person that wasn't ready to settle down 3 months ago... hey stranger
When you're feeling insecure, lonely, unhappy with your life... hey stranger
I get it. I can't tell you how many hey strangers I've gotten over the years. Heck, I've even sent a couple of them out myself! Over time, I've been able to formulate the perfect response to this, no matter who it was or what their reason is for sending it. It...always.... works!
Do you hear that?
The perfect response..... Silence!!
Leave that suckah on "read." No response is the best response to this type of message.
I know it's fun and flattering, but if you're looking for something real in a relationship the last thing you need to do is entertain an occasional pop-up from someone who apparently didn't have the stick-and-stay not to fade out the first time.
Every time you entertain something like this, your "market value" decreases in the dating world. You are communicating, not only to other potentials but to yourself, that temporary attention is worth your time. And you may think that guys don't pay attention to small details, but when a man is looking for a good woman to take into his future, he will pick up on everything!
You're worth more than an occasional pop-up, even if you don't know it yet. But the first step towards that is to start acting like it. If you know you want something serious, then make sure your message is clear and don't spend time entertaining anyone who isn't on that same level.
The last thing you want to do is engage with someone who's only looking for a temporary thrill just to "pass the time" until someone better comes along because you will end up getting too emotionally involved and start giving away your Bae Behaviors to a Pop-up Person who never intended to take you seriously.
Don't get caught up. It's not harmless and it's not fair to you or the people who actually deserve your attention. No matter how lonely or impatient you get, stick to your guns and just press delete.
Watch the video below to hear the story about how I had to shut down a pop-up situation with "The Perfect Guy"