The Secret to Struggle-Proof Happiness & 3 Tips to Get It



Yes…we know… the struggle is real. For some, it always has been. And for others, it always will be. But if that’s true (and it is!) then WHEN are we supposed to finally be completely happy!?


The answer to that question is so simple that it just might make you mad: You can be completely happy whenever you decide to be. Happiness isn’t based on circumstances going well, it’s a decision that we choose to make and keep in spite of things that try to threaten it.


BUT! I’ve discovered that there’s one thing that can truly guarantee that your happiness is struggle-proof: Contentment.


Now before you throw up your hands, roll your eyes, and hit the back button… Make sure that you can pass the Contentment Test first *evil grin*

If you have said or done any of the following things within the last 30 days, it’s probably safe to say you may not be content:

  • “The struggle is real.”

  • “I can’t wait until __________.”

  • “I’ll be glad when __________.”

  • Posted a vacation picture from a year (or more) ago with the caption “Take me back” (my personal favorite, ha!)

  • Daydream about times in the past when “things were better”

  • Fantasize about times in the future when “things will be better”

I could continue, but I’m sure 99.7% of you should probably just keep on reading…

Now that we’ve cleared that up, let’s talk about 3 ways to get content and stay content!


1. Realize what true prosperity is

When we think about the word “prosper” many times we equate it with the word “success.” But Myles Munroe defines true prosperity astoday’s needs are met today.” Many of us are living in overflow and we don’t even take notice of it. We are so busy looking for 25 years’ worth of surplus that we fail to realize what a blessing it is to have more than enough for today. There are so many people in the world that don’t even have basic needs for the day, much less are able to set their minds on tomorrow or the rest of the week.


God knows what we need before we even realize that we need it and He has already promised to supply it, but we can get so busy trying to be Jehovah Jireh in our own lives that we don’t even leave room for God to keep His promises to us. Thank God for supplying today’s needs and leave tomorrow’s needs to Him.


Now this isn’t an excuse not to plan for the future. But there’s a difference in planning for the future and obsessing or worryingabout it. A good passage to meditate on when it comes to this is Matthew 6: 26-32. It will get you ALL the way together.


2. Tend to the “now”

We get so busy searching for things to make our futures bright that we don’t even realize our current lives are a complete wreck. But that future is going to be ON POINT though!! *rolls eyes*


I once read a quote that said, “Your future is made up of nows.” Your future can only be as bright as your current life is. We can always hope for a better tomorrow, but what are you doing today??


We’ve all experienced that “slow moment” of looking for something that was staring us in the face. Or better yet… Have you ever been looking for the very thing that you were actually holding in your hand?? Bahaha!


A lot of discontentment and dissatisfaction with our lives stems from us failing to see the constant blessings that unfold right in front of our faces. Some of us are searching for the very things that we have in our own hands. We have set ourselves up for a life of constant pursuit, never being satisfied with the things we accomplish because we immediately jump ahead to the next thing we need or want.


We’re all on a purpose-chase; I get it… we’re busy. But never set a pace that will cause you to miss the blessings of now. Our purposes are meant to be life-long achievements, which means that there is no finish line to rush to (unless you’re in a hurry to approach the Pearly Gates). Take the time to look for the daily blessings and miracles that are right under your nose. Because if you keep missing them, then they’ll stop showing up.


3. Change your time zone

Every person has their own little time zone that they live in. We decide how long certain goals should take us and what age they should be completed by. Can you imagine how funny this has to be to God??


Proverbs 19:21 says, “There are many plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that will prevail.” The reason a lot of us are discontent and unhappy is because we aren’t where we think we should be in life. We feel like we’re behind. You hustle and grind all day and night because you feel like you need to catch up, when really you may have just placed yourself into the wrong time zone.


Correct your “life clock” to match the time zone of God, because you can always always always count on His timing to be perfect. Even when things move slower or faster than you expect, you’ll always be content right where you are because it’s God’s purpose that is taking place and He never makes mistakes.


Now as much as we hate going through “the process” (that’s really all the “struggle” is… a process that we don’t want to go through) you will encounter one process after another while in God’s time zone. God is ALL about the process, simply because He knows it’s necessary. But instead of seeing the process as “the struggle,” see it as preparation.


I’ve actually come to appreciate the processes I have to endure while trusting God’s timing because I know that when the time comes for me to level up, I’ll have the knowledge, skills, and abilities to sustain it. A lot of us are praying for blessings we aren’t even ready for, but you won’t have to worry about that on God’s time because He will MAKE SURE you are ready. Oh yes, He will!!


Now you know me by now… I don’t like dropping information on you without giving you next steps. SO!! Here are a few (okay, more than a few, hehe) scriptures on contentment to meditate on! What better way to struggle-proof your happiness than to do so with the Word?!

  • Philippians 4:6-7 (NKJV)

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace that surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ.

  • Philippians 4: 10-11 (NLT)

How I praise the Lord that you are concerned about me again. I know you have always been concerned for me, but you didn’t have the opportunity to show it. Not that I was ever in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances.

  • Proverb 14:30 (CEV)

It’s healthy to be content, but envy can eat me up.

  • John 6:35 (NKJV)

And Jesus said to them, “I am the bread of life. He who comes to me shall never hunger, and he who believes in Me shall never thirst.”

  • 1 Timothy 6:6-8 (NKJV)

Godliness with contentment is great gain. We brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out. Having food and clothing, with these we shall be content.

  • Hebrews 13: 5-6 (NIV)

Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you, never will I forsake you.” So we say boldly, “The Lord is my Helper. I will not fear, what can man do to me?”


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