5 Tips for Staying Abstinent

Updated: Jan 10, 2020

It's time to get REAL!

I've been abstinent for 2 years now and it ended up being A LOT easier than I thought it would be, but I still get tempted from time to time. During those moments, I use these 5 tips to keep me from giving in.



1. Announce it.


I used to try to get away with skipping this part, but it always backfired on me! If you’re in a relationship, they NEED to know you are abstinent. It may not need to be the very first thing you say on a date, but it needs to be said.


And also tell the people in your closest circle as well. When other people know it, they will make sure you keep your word.


Take this time to surround yourself with people that are positive and support your decision. If someone questions why you’re doing it or tries to talk you out of it, then you may need to limit the amount of time that you spend around them.


Like the Bible says, how can two walk together unless they agree? (Amos 3:3)


2. Know your triggers.


What tempts you?

You might need to fast forward the sex scenes in a movie, or skip that song that gives you flashbacks (you know the one), or unfollow that fine, fit, seductive *cough*insecure*cough* person on Instagram that oozes sex from each and every pore.


Protect your eye and ear gates at all costs because as soon as you make this decision to be abstinent and STAY abstinent, so many temptations are going to come your way. That’s how the enemy works.


3. Define why you’re doing it.