Here’s the thing...
no matter who is right or wrong, nobody wins in an argument if it makes the situation worse than before it began.
If you want to win an argument make sure that:
1. all feelings are addressed
2. all questions are answered
3. the people involved are closer to and more understanding of each other when all is said and done.
Now let's get into these tips!
1. Come to them FIRST!
The first person that you should confide in about your relationship is the person you're in a relationship with.
Do not go from friend to friend and, God-forbid, social media talking about your relationship problems. Nobody knows the ins and outs of your relationship better than the ones who are in it. And how foolish would you look after talking about how bad things are, only to be hugged up with them on Instagram the next day when the issue is resolved.
Not to mention, going to them first just shows respect for them and your relationship. Nobody wants to be in a relationship with a messy person.
2. Listen to understand, not to respond.
It’s easy to think about the next thing you’re going to say when someone is speaking, but in doing that you, miss the majority of what they are saying.
I hate repeating myself; it makes me angry and frustrated. And that’s exactly what you have to do when the response you get has nothing to do with what you just said.
You should always go into a discussion with the intent to understand the view of the other person because you’re already an expert on yours. And when you offer them that respect and consideration, you’ll get that in return. If both of you are only trying to explain your side then you’ll end up talking in circles, having to repeat yourself, and nothing gets accomplished or resolved.
3. Be a straight- shooter.