When You're Tired of Waiting for 'The One'

Updated: Jan 10, 2020

You're putting yourself "out there." You've dealt with your past and know your worth. You go to church and live right. You've even decided to be abstinent /celibate. (I mean... MY GOD!)

I know how it feels... to feel like you're doing you're part, but nothing is happening.

Hello God?? Do you see me? Have you forgotten about me??

I get it... all too well. That's why I want to share with you some things that's helped "the wait" become so much easier for me.

Impatience is a sign that you believe what you hope for won't happen.

Timing is everything in relationships. When you feel yourself getting antsy or discouraged, pray for God's perfect timing to cover your future relationship because doing so gives you a brand new perspective on the wait. The last thing you want is for your relationship to start before it's time. It may feel like nothing is happening but there are necessary processes occurring right now- processes that you don't want interrupted because the success of your relationship depends on it.

Some people get impatient because they are waiting and doing very little of anything else.

When all of your energy is focused on one area, you won't be working on the other areas of your life that need to be developed before your relationship starts. You shouldn't be just waiting for your man or woman of God to cross your path, you should be working in the wait.

There's a level of development and maturity that we need to be on before our relationships begin if we want them to be successful. If you’re waiting for your relationship to start before you begin working on these things, then there's a chance that it never will.

Your purpose is what attracts the right person to you because it's the foundation on which you're marriage should be built. But if you aren't already walking in that, then you may never get the attention of the person you are supposed to be with. You might actually get the attention of someone you aren't supposed to be with based on the current level your on.

What if it never happens? what if you never get married?

Your answers to these questions have a lot to do with how well you're waiting. The truth is, marriage isn't for everybody. There are people who always thought they would be married, but once they began to allow themselves to experience the fullness of their life as an individual, they realized that singleness is what they're called to.