Updated: Jan 10
Waiting and Dating is actually a book I've had for a few years now. But since then, so much has evolved as far as my mindset about my personal relationship goals that I decided to read it again. I swear, it was as if I had never laid eyes on it! I ate this book up in 2 sittings. TWO! I can't remember the last time I read a book that fast.
This is what I love about physical books versus electronic copies. For me, out of sight means out of mind. When I get the itch to buy a new book, I always take a stroll down my book shelf to see if I should revisit a book I haven't read in a while with a fresh perspective. And I'm so glad I chose to revisit this one!
Within the first 20 pages, I realized that, even as confident as I believe myself to be, there are still holes in my self-concept. But Dr. Munroe has a talent for pointing this out in a way that actually made me look forward to working towards repairing those things as a single person. He made it seem like privileged fun, which is how singleness should be!
What I liked about this book.
I love a straight-shooter and Dr. Munroe did NOT come to play with us in this book! He's serving up bitter truths with no sugar! If you aren't serious about getting the facts and applying them, don't read this book. It may only offend you and/or hurt your feelings.
I love the fact that he takes the rush out of dating and finding the one simply by emphasizing:
1. the truth and power of singleness
2. and what we need to be and do before should even start thinking about dating
This book takes you on a journey from being solo dolo, to making friends, to deciding if someone is right for you, dating for success, and eventually becoming engaged. I'm a step-by-step type of person, so I appreciated how thorough he was at explaining the do's and don'ts of each stage.
I also liked the fact that he doesn't just dive into the spiritual aspect of relationships, but gives some practical tips on:
-how to meet people and make friends (for all my fellow Introverts!)
-debunking the myths about finding the one (Is there really only ONE person for us?)
- knowing what qualities you should and shouldn't be using to decide whether you should date someone (determining Wifey and Husband material)
-how to decide if someone is the right partner for you (How will I know if they are "the one"?)
- the reasons we often use to rationalize being with the wrong person ("He's just afraid"...yeah right!)
-how to avoid having issues in the 5 areas that are the cause of most marital issues (safe-guarding your future marriage!)
I mean, he REALLY breaks it down!
What I didn't like about this book.
The content from chapter to chapter is a bit repetitive. But knowing the intentionality of Dr. Munroe, I'll bet this wasn't an accident. Although I was initially annoyed by it, I had to admit that the points he repeated are ones that I've screwed up before or completely eliminated altogether in the past. I promptly got off of my highly-intelligent horse, and began to pay more attention to the points he was really trying to drive home.
Who this book is for
This book is for anyone who is determined to have the relationship God has in mind for you.
It doesn't matter if you are single with no prospects in sight, if you are engaged to the love of your life, or if you are somewhere in between. It's never to early or too late to use the information in this book.
It's for those of us who are unwilling to settle, but nowhere close to giving up. Those of us who want to be as prepared as possible for the relationship and marriages that we desire and don't mind putting in the work because we know that it will be well worth it. If that sounds like you (and I'll bet it does!) then you should definitely read this book!