Where All of the Good Men?

Updated: Jan 10, 2020

Is there a shortage of good men? And if not, then where the heck are they?!

I hear this question all of the time and it really makes me cringe because it shows that we are still largely unaware of how to position ourselves to receive the man or woman that God has in mind for us. It also shows our lack of patience and confidence in the process necessary to eventually experience the love lives we dream of.

Men are actually seeking good women. Most of the DM's and emails of relationship questions that I get are from men- and when I say most of them, I mean roughly about 85% of them.

Can you guess what they ask me…. “Where are all of the good women??”

It’s comical, really. We’re all in search of each other, but can’t seem to land on the same planet long enough to make any real connections.

So here are 6 of my responses to the age old question: “Where are all of the good men?”

1. As long as we are dating in the will of God, there will never be a shortage of men or women because everyone will be in their proper places - you won't have to worry about your future husband falling for a “counterfeit” that looks the part, but doesn’t mean him well. This is why it’s necessary to pray over our future spouses now. Pray that they are properly positioned, moving in purpose and discernment during their single season so that you won't miss the opportunity to cross paths.

2. Good men have a tendency to get overlooked.

They are actually everywhere you go, but you might not notice them right away because they will always observe you before they approach you. It’s very possible to gauge what type of person you are simply by the way you carry yourself and interact with those around you. Because of this, it’s important for us to make a habit of living a lifestyle that’s congruent with our morals, standards, and values. Even an uninterested stranger can pick up on these nonverbal cues so you better believe that good men can notice it almost immediately. Make sure that how you would describe yourself matches what you are portraying at any given moment.