Updated: Jan 10
Are you in a relationship or friendship with someone that you KNOW is completely toxic, but you're having the hardest time cutting them off and letting them go??
I have!! And I believe I may have the answer to why you can't get over them.
What if I told you that your connection to them isn't simply because you love them? Our relationships run so much deeper than surface level. Many times it runs right down to our souls.....
Have you ever heard of a soul tie?
A soul tie is a spiritual connection that attaches you to someone else.
There are both healthy (godly) and unhealthy (ungodly) soul ties, but that depends on the reasons that you connected with that person in the first place.
Godly soul ties allow you to spiritually connect with someone for the purpose of healing, protection, completing an assignment, serving a good purpose, bringing unity in family, ect. But we know that satan is known for creating counterfeit versions of godly things in order to trick us into going down the wrong path. If we aren't careful and prayerful, we can form ungodly soul ties with the wrong people. This can cause us to develop a strong connection, and sometimes dependence, on people who don't have our best interest at heart.
Unhealthy soul ties can cause you to stay in ungodly, abusive, destructive, stagnant relationships and friendships even when you don't want to. You may know that it's not good for you, but that soul tie is like a chain wrapped around you that will only let you go so far before it snatches you back. And sometimes you'll be so deceived by the soul tie itself that you may actually think it's a godly one.
Here's a simple test to see whether a soul tie is godly or ungodly:
A godly soul tie will always bring you closer to Christ and encourage you to grow and develop in righteousness and your purpose. An ungodly soul tie will take you farther from God and deeper into sin.
Many people believe that soul ties can only be formed by having sex with someone, but I believe this is yet another deception that satan wants us to believe in order to keep us in the dark and not become completely free.
I believe that godly soul ties were predestined even before the foundation of the earth, at the same time that God predestined our purposes (Jeremiah 1:5, Ephesians 1:4)
We were created to need other people in order to survive. And as intentional as I know God to be, I honestly believe that He knew right then and there who we would need in our lives to fulfill the purpose that He created us for.
Both godly and ungodly soul ties can be formed in many ways including physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and socially. We'll dive more into this in Part 2 of this mini series!
For now, I encourage you to think about your relationships and friendships and ask yourself whether they are healthy or unhealthy connections. In a later post, we will learn how to break the soul tie connections that are unhealthy, but the first step is to identify them and determine how they were formed.
See you in Part 2!
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